Confidence or self esteem?
What is Confidence and self-esteem really about?
In my opinion, confidence and self-esteem are two different compartment of our mind—accessing each of them requires altogether different skills.
Confidence, I mean a self-confidence.
Is confidence something we are born with or we have to build upon?
In fact it is hard to define what is a confidence? It’s more as a feeling than anything else. Either you have it or you don’t.
If we have to talk about self-confidence, we have to consider a feelings like self-worth or self-doubt.
How you view confidence is entirely unique to you. And what you feel confident about is also unique to you.
In my opinion, confidence is a person’s ability to believe in himself and his inner strength which would guide him towards success.
Sometimes we feel confident about the things we are good at it. But, in real sense confidence has nothing to do with skill or talent.
As a natural instinct, confidence can be felt pretty performative, especially more about people’s perception about you, regardless how you feel about it. In other words, sometime people are pretty confident about you that you would 100% do it even if you are going with 25% probability.
For some people, confidence comes so naturally while for others it need to be worked upon or need to be developed.
Is confidence something inborn trait? I guess so, because for some people the confidence is just pouring all over. Nothing affects them - a criticism or neglect …they are just cool as they are! They are just not afraid of taking risks or try something new. Even if they fail, they don’t hesitate to attempt again.
To prove wrong a popular belief, confidence is no longer a genetic programming. You can change the way you feel it and feel confident.
Confidence can be created, developed, nurtured and cultivated. It’s a kind of learning process.
On the other hand self-esteem is altogether different. It requires more unlearning than anything else.
In a conventional way, self-esteem can be defined as Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities and self-respect.
Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth.
Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself as well as emotional states to feel triumph, defeated, victim, proud, ashamed..
Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait, which means that it tend to be stable and enduring.
Self-esteem can involve a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the appraisal of your own appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors.
Self-esteem can play a significant role in your motivation and success throughout your life.
Low self-esteem may hold you back from succeeding at school or work because you don't believe yourself to be capable of success.
By contrast, having a healthy self-esteem can help you achieve because you navigate life with a positive, assertive attitude and believe you can accomplish your goals.
There are different factors that can influence self-esteem. Genetic factors that help shape overall personality can play a role, but it is often our experiences that form the basis for overall self-esteem.
Those who consistently receive critical or negative assessments from caregivers, family members or friends, will likely experience problems with low self-esteem.
Also, your inner thinking, age, any potential illnesses, disabilities, or physical limitations, and your job can affect your self-esteem.
In short, Self-esteem is defined as the evaluative component, the extent to which people view themselves as likable and worthy as opposed to unlikable and unworthy.